My brother and I have been talking over email about how we grew up and the effect it has on relationships. I know I've had to work like hell to surmount the anger and violence we saw as kids. It's not easy and yet I know I improve each day.
I grew up with bullying, loud voices, fists. I had to call the cops on my father when I was 17 years old. When they walked into the entryway, he turned to us and said: "Who called?" I looked him in the eye and said: "Me."