And the same as a mountain rage grinding up out of the ground, soaring into the sky, and then disappearing grain by grain as erosion erases it back into nothingness. The thought comes and goes in five seconds, and the mountain range takes 500 million years to rise and fall, but it's the same movement.
It's simple enough to say this, of course, but actually inhabiting that truth is difficult. That's what Chinese culture was all about: the difficult trick of living inside constant change and identifying with it. Well, at least, that's the start of it. The depths begin there.
is a difficult one to get my hands around. I have humility to a certain degree
when it comes to interacting with others, but when it comes to regarding
myself, that’s a totally different story. I tend to think that I’m smarter and
know more and can therefore get away with … what? That’s how I screwed myself
up with the lap band, thinking that I could smartass my way through it. So, the
question: how’s that working for you?
I suppose it’s served its purpose to a degree, met a need or several needs, but
what does that even mean? The needs that have been met aren’t necessarily the
needs that should be met any more. These are needs like sneakiness, like getting away with it. So how’s that
working for me? All too well, but not well in the way I need or want it to be.
important is humility versus the lack thereof? I sometimes conflate humility
with lack of self-esteem. I’m struggling with this right now. I realize at one
level that someone who is bombastic and full of themselves isn’t exactly the
self-esteem queen, and while I don’t see myself as bombastic, I certainly have
been in the past. This has pushed people away, caused ire, and what has it done
to me personally? Well, in some ways it’s lifted me up, given me some sort of
platform on which to stand. I’m trying to figure out if that platform is solid
or made of air.
looking at Step Seven: Humbly asked him
to remove our shortcomings. Does this occur on bended knee? I’ve been
having a really hard time making myself get up and get down on my knees to
offer gratitude to Higher Power. That said, I’ve been feeling Higher Power more frequently, though I still have yet to
define it to any more degree than to postulate that maybe it’s a sense of
humor. Still a work in progress though.
Step Seven: In OA we have discovered that
humility is simply an awareness of who we really are today and a willingness to
become all that we can be. Genuine humility brings an end to the feelings of
inadequacy, the self-absorption, and the status-seeking. Humility, as we
encounter it in our OA Fellowship, places us neither above nor below other
people on some imagined ladder of worth. It places us exactly where we belong,
on an equal footing with our fellow beings and in harmony with God.
going to put this on my blog. It’s a way of sort of putting this out there,
committing myself to it in a sense. I don’t exactly know to what I am
committing. I only know that I am, in fact, committing.
I've been chasing things that have already resolved themselves. Primarily, the person who I used to be. As I drove down State Street this morning seeking the sunrise, I realize that I no longer need to recapture who I once was. She will always be a part of me, but she is no longer primary and that is a function of growing up. The anger, frustration and anxiety, the wild attention-seeking, the gnawing loneliness ... I remember them but no longer viscerally feel them. I am so grateful.
I'm a writer and performer in Berkeley, Calif. I'm married to a big Jew nose and together we have a fantastic little boy, two gorgeous dogs and the afterlife of a beautiful cat. I am represented by Miriam Altshuler of Miriam Altshuler Literary Agency. Life is good!