Monday, April 28, 2014

On not having children

Having turned 40 a few weeks ago, I like to quip that the ship has sailed when it comes to having kids. That said, I'm not really quipping. Even if I were younger, I'm not exactly a fountain of fertility. What's more, though, I'm not sure kids would fit into Adam's and my lifestyle.

In fact, I'm pretty certain they wouldn't.

We're spontaneous and at the same time lazy. We eat dinner late and only sometimes get up early. We like to play more than we like to work. 

Is this the right structure for a child?

Am I making excuses?

Has the ship yet to sail?

Stay tuned, I guess. Stay tuned. 


Julie Sondra Decker said...

I know what you mean. I'm 36 and people act like there must be a reason I "couldn't" have kids, as if every adult must want to do so if they possibly can. I don't mind if someone asks me about my choices, but behaving as if not having children isn't a valid lifestyle (or is a pitiable one that others should consistently question) drives me up the wall.

Allison Landa said...

Totally! It should go without saying that it's a completely valid choice.