Two of Bazzy's greatest hits

San Rafael Community Center, April 10, 2017.

Alta Bates Summit Medical Center, September 7, 2015.

Junot Diaz in The New Yorker

This isn't simply about childhood trauma, nor is it only about rape, though those elements of course figure largely here. It's about finding oneself, and finding the person who can hold that person without reservation.

Balance Project series!

Thrilled to be part of Susie Orman Schnall's Balance Project today!

Some great quotes here

Right here.

This one in particular:

 Maybe I’m just a dreamer, but I believe that love should be easy, it should be simple and clear. It shouldn’t be all questions and games and it shouldn’t leave you wondering or waiting.

My baby's sick day

Editing this

Reason Number Three: When something disappoints you, why would you return to it like some sort of lost dog? Some Pit Bull maybe, banging its face against the bars in fruitless hope? The promise of love, of care, of commitment, only to be leashed, walked, and killed?

Wherefore art thou? Thou art euthanized.

I gather my books and stuff them into my bag. Time to leave the classroom, go find my janky Civic, get behind the wheel, and drive over to the phony-swank spaghetti palace, except it feels like my Converse are Super-Glued to the floor. Super Glue does no good Rooster always says. Duct tape. That fixes everything.

Why am I thinking about my father’s opinions on household adhesives?

Why can’t I handle the fact that the roof is coming down, that the walls are closing in?

Matt’s gone, Romeo too. The best friend I trusted waited until my back was turned and then hand-crafted a KICK ME sign.

The places I went to for help instead harmed me. The doors I knocked on for support stayed closed. 

The Bazzy playlist

The child likes what he likes:

Elvis Costello
Beach Boys
Mark Ronson, "Uptown Funk"
Portugal the Man, "Feel it Still"
Beatles, "Love Me Do"
Harry Belafonte
The Bangles

I've got to get this boy on The Cure and The Doors, stat.