Gil Fronsdal on non-constancy

In and of itself, love, kindness, care is part of the flow, river, of our experience. As soon as we cling ... as soon as we hold it fixed, it's no longer love or care. That to trust deeply the flow of life and to learn how to navigate on the river of life so we're flowing along is what allows the deepest kinds of love and care to exist in us. That takes a lot of trust to settle back, relax, open. But to allow your care, your love, the natural capacity for kindness to flow out of your hope and experience, to flow out of your willingness to not resist or hold onto anything, a tenderness -- some people call it a vulnerability -- that allows our care, our empathy.